I had an interesting conversation with my girlfriends’ this weekend, we had gone on a girls’ trip to another city and we started to talk about settling. Now I can’t for the life of me remember what made us have this conversation in the first place. But basically the day before on a local radio show, the hosts said a doctor had pointed out that women because of modern day life they were taking too long to have kids and as a result they had fertility issues.
Sooo… guess what his solution was? He said that women rather than waiting for MR RIGHT they should settle for MR RIGHT NOW and start having kids. Mind, you I thought ummm… that is a bit interesting, and the hosts took it a bit further they said threw the question out to the audience and asked if they had settled. Many, many people called in and said they had… settled and some of them were willing to settle for a while. But after some time, and they had either lost the weight that was holding them back or got the confidence they need  and said HECK NO forget this, and let go of MR or MS RIGHT NOW and found MR or MS RIGHT.

Mind you my conversation with my girls was filled with us quelling and giggling at the thought of calling in a National Radio station and discussing whether you are just killing time, with the person you are with. But I wondered, if people are settling on the person they spend most of their time with, what everything else?

We were not born to settle

We all come into this world with a power and a confidence that rivals any politician (and they have the confidence to move nations), just look at any child that has learnt to walk and talk.  It’s as if they have a massive energy magnet that attracts every living thing towards them, without any effort at all. They also know what it is that they want, this is why the word MINE holds such power and they do not take no for an answer.

So what happens, how do we go from super human infants to being crippled with fear and apprehension enough to accept the things that we do not want or even like? Just try giving any kid veggies, especially when that kid hates them, no matter of pleading, bribing or scolding will work. The kid will just say:
“I don’t want that” and nothing will change.

 

Coupled with the fact that global life expectancy ranges between 45 to 89 years depending on where you live, and this can seem life a lot of time, but if you look at how many days that is you get its between 16,425 to 32,485. Also life unfortunately does not have a redo button, wouldn’t YOU want to get the most out of the days that you have left on this planet and get what you want. Rather than just kill time, till you die?

 

Many people would then ask so how do I get the things that I want and desire out of life, well it’s a three step process.

STEP ONE- Find out what it is that you want

Life is like a drive by takeout joint, it will only give you what you order. So if you are one of those people that stand by the intercom and umm… and ahh… looking at the menu and change your mind well, you will get some of the stuff you want and some that you won’t, but you cannot cancel your order.

So in order to get what it is that you want, find out what it is that you want before you order. Many people if you ask them what is that they want out of life they will be stumped to tell you, and thus it’s easier to settle. So write a list, what you want to your body to look like, how much money you want to make, where you want to live and the person you would want to be with.

 

I know it sounds way… too simple. But just ask any of the leaders, or gurus, or billionaires out there. All of them have goals and they know what it is that they want out of life and that is what they focus on, so that the take out machine that is life, gives them their order.

 

Step two: Find a mentor

Recently I went to Landmark Forum and if you have never gone I would recommend that you do. The forum was taking place at a local town hall that was at least 50 years old but had been revamped with modern day ceiling décor that reminded me of a starry night and had an awesome stage.

 

The room we were sitting was filled with many people, who had just finished the 4 day course and their family and friends who had come to support them. The presenter they had talked about how as children we all suffer some event that causes us to make a decision that affects our lives, and the only way to change your live is to look at whatever caused people to make that decision and then they put it back in the past. After this what happened floored me, numerous people came up to microphones at the front of the room and told people about how they were able to make amends with their family, let go of past hurts and start believing for the life that they want and NOT settling.

 

The key speaker told everyone that the only reason had been able to make the changes in their lives, was because they had dealt with the issues they had as children. So in order to move forward you need to go backwards and deal with whatever it is that might be limiting you and the best way is to get a mentor.

 

Step 3: Get moving

To start you on you on your success journey, you need to move. After writing your goals, write down the action steps for you to get there. For many people they might think, how do I do that (especially if your dream is big) and I can understand how you feel. Just starting moving towards what you want and people, tools and situations will come in to help you meet your dreams.

So I wish all the best in your journey to success and remember whatever it is that you are looking for, is looking for you and start moving towards your goals.

 

 

 

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Natalie

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